Hxdream

“Come on, Stop being lame, who is going to care?”  or  the “Fuck its!”

We all have had those people in our lives who you know drag you to places you should not go and that do not add value into your life.

Once I started the journey of loving myself I learned that I needed to stay firm in my beliefs and re-evaluate who I was giving my time and energy to. I made a conscious decision that I would no longer entertain anything that caused me stress or did not add value to my life.

So I had to ask myself, what does this mean to me?

It meant that the drinking friends & the lets just have fun friends had to be dropped.

At first it was hard because I loved going out, being social, and meeting new people. Going out with these friends became easy so I would go out every night but I got bored of going out and just drinking so in order for us to keep hitting that high of having fun we introduced are other substances in our night outs.

The nights always ended with me being way beyond wasted and always waking up hungover. THIS HAD TO STOP.

I really enjoyed working out and being out all night was clashing with my fitness.

I decided it was time to weed out my garden and start from the soil up. I turned over all the dirt in my life and when I stopped going out & making time to go get wasted, those friends started to drop.

It hit me as I was driving one day” I can not believe that I thought she was my close friend? All we ever got along doing was drinking and going out.”

I started to reevaluate my relationships. From that point forward I decided that my relationships needed to add value in my & hopefully vice versa.

If I couldn’t have a good time without drinking or having other substances involved then that was saying something for me.

So what did this change? EVERYTHING

This changed the person I was and the friend that I was. I started to develop relationships that had meaning and was more based on quality than quantity. I started forming healthier friendships.

The relationships I have now with my friends feels much more genuine and rich that this adds so much more value to my life. I get to keep it one hundred percent honest  with them and them with me.

I value honesty, support, and respect. This is what most people look for in every friendship and now I was able to give it even more deeply because I was cultivating it.

This allowed me to spend more time with the friends I did have and it allowed me to water the soil of our friendships.

Also, I started to workout more. This time with more of a plan then aimlessly working out. I started cleaning out my social media and following fitness athletes that I could relate to and that I admired. I also started to grow a following on my own fitness journey, something I truly love and believe in. Once I started going to the gym more I began building new friends that had the same values and wants in life. I was being social and meeting new people but without the drinking and other things.

I also began to read and learn more about self development and had more time to put my energy in things that I wanted to know about.

I have always been a spiritual soul but rediscovering all this and actually cluttering out  my life was connecting me a bit more deeply then I was before.

Since my head was much more clear I started to set goals.

I decided to do all the things that I wanted to experience & did not think twice of what others would say or think of these goals. A lot of people on my social media started to see me do all sorts of new activities as I shared them and would tell me, “your insane I don’t know how you do all that”

and this seemed to always be my response:

” I have probably a good 80 years ahead of me assuming no freak accident occur. 80 years is still a lifetime! I am not going to regret any of those years and I am going to do everything my heart desires and accomplish every goal that my body wants to fufill! I REFUSE TO LIVE MY LIFE UNHAPPY, DOING SOMETHING THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME SMILE AND TO GO DAY IN DAY OUT STRESSED OUT!

The major thing that helps with this shift is to drop the negatives. The people who don’t add value to your life. Taking the negative drama out of your life allows you to focus & gives you some time to actually go in a positive direction that is going to bring you a life you wish to experience.

At first you may not know what to do with that time but I started to use that time to invest in myself. My wants, my goals, and my friends.

So think about it! What adds value to your life? What makes you happy? What fulfills your soul?