Hxdream

This will be a big game changer ….

Not that long ago I was speaking with a friend about what we want to work on as individuals, where do we want to see growth and change?

We both shared one in common: “Doubting ourselves less“

Self-doubt is a pit fall. Many of the programs and projections we received in life may have been ones that promoted a lack mentality and in that promotion we were sold the lie that we needed someone or something to tell us our worth and define who we are.

Self- doubt not only holds us back but it also causes a mental health decline as we are berating ourselves in our own minds questioning our every thought & action.

“Did I say something wrong?” , “Am I wrong?” …etc

Most of our self doubt is formed by the projections of the outside world. We have internalized what the outside reality is showing us and our own self worth metrics have been heavily influenced by the reaction of others.

I encourage you to read that sentence over and over till it lands. Until you can see through the words and lines of inner-standing how messed up that is.

You have taken the reactions of the world (people, places and things) and have been at the mercy of their thoughts for your value. People pleasing is a big challenge that many do or have faced. So here is your game changer :

OUR SELF-DOUBT COMES FROM NOT KNOWING WHO THE F*** WE ARE

When someone knows who they are they exude confidence, they are assured!

The opposite of that is insecurity which is a breeding ground for self-doubt, confusion, uncertainty, and all things lack mentality.

Self-doubt comes from not knowing who you are so you are easily persuaded by others and what they think & feel.

They tell YOU your story and who you are.

You live for others.

You make this okay by saying: “i’m an empath” or “i’m a people pleaser” People where this as a badge of honor as if it’s some justification of why they have self-esteem issues.

I always say knowing who we are is going to be an endless journey of discovering but knowing who the f*** we aren’t allows us to let go of the shit that we can confidently say is not us.

One other big key is knowing our intentions and where they lay at all times.

Look, we’re going to f*** up and make mistakes. We are going to hurt people unintentionally or do things that may cost us in a big way but here is where people get rocked and they lose all sense of who they are by not knowing where their intentions lay.

You need to know where your intentions are.

Knowing your intentions will assist in kicking out the self doubt. Doubting ourselves is not helpful in anyway. The world is going to react in so many different & if you take the reaction of the world to define you then you will be “lost” forever.

Knowing where your intentions are in everything you do will guide you in knowing exactly who you are.

For example, you may have needed to clear the air with someone but your approach to the conversation may have been received as an attack & now you’re leaving the conversation gaslighting yourself. “Was I wrong?” and just like that you are in your head about yourself feeling like you are the worst person in the world.

Here’s the thing, when you get clear on your intentions, which in this case was to gain clarity, then it doesn’t matter how someone reacts.

Someone’s reaction does not say anything about you and only gives you insight about them.

Want to get to know someone?

Observe their reactions!

Their reaction will share who they are, where they stop in life, and if you can continue forward with them. Here’s where many mess up, they take the reaction of others as a metrics of defining who they are.

STOP TAKING OTHER PEOPLES REACTIONS AS A METRICS TO YOUR WORTH

be observant of your own reactions and that will be the key to knowing yourself.

Once I decided to get clear on my own intentions of why I do what I do, how I speak, and the questions I ask I no longer felt the overwhelming feeling of self doubt. I started gaining confidence because I knew my intentions and for me knowing the root of my intentions is having clarity.

Don’t let other peoples reaction stop you in life.

Get this engrained, other peoples reactions is about them and how you react to them is about you. When you start making their reactions about you (who you are, your worth, and value) that’s when you’ve crossed your own boundary.

I hope this post helped give a bit more insight of what you want to work on within yourself.

Maybe it’s getting intentional in life & being a bit more observant. Maybe it’s no longer falling victim to reactions.

My only personal intention with this blog is to share keys that unlock deeper awarenesses within us to help our souls be free and live a life filled with meaning, balance and purpose.

I hope to stay connected and catch you on the next post till then stay warm and bright as you always are. Sending love from my heart to yours- Ong Namo, may peace be filled within you.