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At some point you have to stop talking about it and actually just do it…..Be All In

Have you ever thought to yourself of all the things you were going to start doing just to leave it there? In your thoughts.

Maybe you start to casually tell the people around you of all your new ideas just to have it leave your lips and stop there.

Or maybe, you are in a bad situation and you can’t stop talking or thinking about it.

I myself know this all too well.

I don’t doubt that every single person in this world deals with this but I am open to being wrong and meeting the person that does everything they think and say.

In my own short 33 years of life experience ,I found something very true that I wanted to share to all you.

I assume that everyone who reads this post are either my personal friends or people who are really looking to improve their lives.

A change.

This post is truly for you, the one who is at their wits end and wants a change. The one who is tired of the lower vibrational feelings they keep getting. The one who is scared to jump all in on themselves. The one who is confused or lost.

This one is for you

First and foremost, let’s just give ourself a moment and acknowledge where we are at presently in our lives with no shame or judgement just pure acknowledgment.

It’s so easy to beat ourselves up for where we may not be or the things that we aren’t doing.

I think it’s so important that we acknowledge ourselves for where we are at and give ourselves grace in knowing that,

we are….doing the best…. that we know…. how to do.

You deserve that love and that grace, no matter what your past holds, no matter how many terrible decisions or things you may feel, think and may have done.

You are worthy of love, compassion, and grace.

No exceptions to this truth.

You are the one who is most deserving of this gift called Love

Okay, how are we feeling?

I hope you are feeling a bit more softness in your heart and can openly receive this gift of information that I have to share with not only you but myself as well 🙂

Having ideas, thoughts, and complaints are all apart of life. However if we are not taking aligned action on these ideas, thoughts, or complaints then we remain stuck.

What is taking Aligned Action and how can we be so sure it’s the right move?

We don’t know if something is the “right” move until we make it.

That’s the thing though, if we aren’t making the move then we aren’t getting any feedback to help us learn on how we need to move.

There is a big fear around making the “wrong” choice and at times that fear is so big it is debilitating.

I get it.

If you have trauma from making mistakes as a child, maybe abuse for doing the wrong thing or maybe something from a past life where there was severe punishment around a choice you made.

That trauma stops us in our tracks.

That trauma is the reason why we are unable to even take a further step forward into our dreams, into our future, in leaving a bad situation the list is endless.

We stay stuck, unhappy, miserable and sad.

So how do we move forward?

Well, once you’ve brought awareness to this fear you can start the work of going all in with yourself.

What is going all in with yourself?

Going all in with yourself is facing your fears.

Meeting your fears which would be meeting yourself and where you are at and this doesn’t have to be even more traumatizing than it can feel.

I wanted to share a few modalities that I find truly valuable for someone who is about to face their own fears and needs that bit of support.

Modalities:

• Ice baths
• Meditation
• Breath-work
• Maori bodywork / Body work therapy
• Sound baths
• R.E.M
• psilocybin – w/ a professional medical team
• Plant medicine – w/ a professional medical team
• Journaling
• Therapists
• Life coaches

The only one that I have not personally done myself is R.E.M which is rapid eye-movement therapy. The reason I listed it was because of the amazing testimonials and feedback I have heard from it.

Healing is a journey and in that journey these are the tools you can interchangeably use to assist and support you through that door you are walking through.

Key word: YOU

I use to look at all these modalities and be a bit frustrated. Oh, it didn’t work, it “didn’t fix me” but I found I was looking at it the wrong way. Truly in a victim mindset.

These modalities aren’t going to “fix you” or give you your answer.

They are here to facilitate you on your journey to fully support you as YOU are finding your answer within.

The modalities help you see YOU!

They are the reflections held up so that you can see where you are and what direction you want to go.

I think at times we as patience or clients get frustrated that we aren’t being given the answer.

I get that! You just want someone to tell you what to do, lol.

However, if you are having someone else give YOU your answers on what to do, then whose life are you truly living?

Theirs or yours?

Now let’s go back to not know what choice to make

I mentioned that many of us don ‘t take action due to not knowing if we are doing it right or wrong.

To get to where you are going you have to make choices and some of them are going to be great choices and some are not but even the choices that seem “wrong” are actually right!

How?

Feedback.

Many of us are so afraid to get feedback because of how it feels to us? We take criticism very personally and sometimes it’s to the point of believing that we are not worthy.

But that simply is not true (This is where a therapist may be good to work with. You can talk through these things with them).

WE NEED FEEDBACK!

That is the only way we know what to change and adjust A.K.A EVOLVE

Making a decision that is “wrong” doesn’t mean you failed and it’s over. It just means you have to look at what didn’t work, why, and what needs to change so that you can have a different outcome.

This is with careers, projects, relationships, anything in life.

If you are still waking up the next day then you have been granted the gift called Life

which means you have another opportunity to make a different choice.

If your marriage, relationship, engagement, or anything that ends with a “ship” didn’t work out it doesn’t mean that you failed and that was it.

Maybe that relationship is no longer with that exact person but you have another opportunity to make a different choice. To have a new experience.

• What did you find in that relationship that didn’t work for you?
• What did you need more of that you were not getting?
• what were you unable to give?
• Where were your fears laying?

And that’s when you go back to the drawing board to try again, grow, learn, evolve.

I can tell you this……. if something didn’t work, it was because you were meant for more.

The only way to get to your fullness, your whole-ness, your more-ness is through growth.

It is through evolving to that higher space that you are meant to step into.

Now here is where you have to wake up and recognize that it won’t just happen if you don’t take action.

What needs to change will take action in order for you to receive your more.

This is called free- will.

You have the free will to choose if you proceed in your growth or not.

If you don’t then you stay where you are at and there is no judgment there.

That is your free-will’d choice!

If you choose to proceed then

At some point you have to stop talking about it and start doing it!

Here is where I really wanted to go.

At some point we need to stop talking about everything we want to do or complaining about everything that we are upset with and we need to start taking the action to change things around.

Not making a decision is lowering your vibration.

Start making the choices and if the choice wasn’t “right” then learn from the feedback and go again.

I promise you, you are not starting from ground 0. You are starting from a new elevated place. A step – up!

The feedback is the most valuable thing you can receive.

Yes sometimes it wont feel good but even that feeling is showing you where you need to head. That feeling is feedback within itself.

Okay this didn’t feel good to hear or experience so what will I change? What will I no longer choose to do?

and know that even if you make the same mistake ….. that is okay!

Try again and again.

Now let’s get to what we complain about?

Maybe it’s our relationship.

We continue to complain about how unhappy we are or maybe we complain about our jobs and how upset we are with them but that is all we do.

We talk about it , think about it and complain and that is it.

Complaining can lower our vibration.

At some point your friends are going to stop picking up the phone if you aren’t helping yourself with what you are upset over.

The constant complaining and talking about the same thing for weeks, months, years is not only dragging you down it starts to drag your friendships down.

Sometimes your friends won’t have the heart to tell you what they no longer can accept and it feels like you have been abandoned but the truth is they just don’t know how to help anymore.

Don’t get this confused with wondering if you should talk about anything at all.

It is IMPORTANT to talk about the things you are struggling with.

Talking about our challenges and struggles is a part of the process of growing (this is when a therapist or life coach/ mentor can be very helpful).

We need to talk through things.

It is apart of the support of walking through the fear however we must remain mindful of how often we are talking about the same situation and to who.

If you find yourself speaking about the same challenge in every conversations for a few weeks, then it is a clear indication that we haven’t started taking the steps needed to create change.

Our friends love us and they want to see us overcome and evolve.

If they aren’t trying to have the same conversations over and over it is not because they don’t love us, it’s only because it is not helping you and could be enabling you to remain stuck.

Let’s be honest with ourselves.

Sometimes we complain to complain.

We aren’t looking to change the situation but we complain as if we are.

Sometimes we complain to avoid the true problem.

Maybe it’s a fear on having to take a certain action.

Pay attention to what you complain about and ask yourself….

Do I want to change this or do I just want to complain?

If you want to just complain about it and not have it affect your entire life or friendships (because remember our friends can only take so much complaining) then decide how many times you will allow yourself to speak upon it and after that you move forward.

If you want to change the situation then you have to take action and make a choice.

Don’t worry so much if it’s the wrong or right choice (because remember you will get feedback and from that feedback you will know which way to move) just make the choice.

Growth Can Be Painful

This is where a modality such as Ice-Baths & breath-work can really come in handy.

These physical modalities help us move with our body and work through the stress, through the pain with breath

We have to learn how to breath through the discomfort.

The New Year is a New You

So take the chance.

If you are a lot like me and you work with energy then you are probably feeling tons of shifts happening with the ending of this year in preparation with the New Year (Spring Equinox)

Take this New Year and go ALL IN with yourself.

Face your fears, start making yourself the priority.

You can do it and you do not have to do it by yourself.

Check out all those modalities I shared about.

Start diving into the conversations around change and start learning about yourself!

• What am I most afraid of?
• Where do I stop?
• What do I want in life?

AND LETS GOOOOOOO!

I hope this was useful in any bit or way.

I can personally share that I myself am ripping off my bandaid and going all in.

Saying the things I need to say, making the changes I want to make and learning that it is okay.

Change is great.

I recently started therapy again, I am starting to go deeper into my meditations, Ice-bath practices and I plan to start incorporating breath-work.

You don’t have to do all those modalities at one time. I get finance is a real thing to consider.

Meditation is free and there is so much useful information on youtube with it.

Ice baths, you can find a trash bin for cheap and dip in with ice and water.

If you can’t finance a therapist then start diving into books. Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Joe Dispenza are some great authors that I love but use youtube as a resource to find therapists that resonate with you and maybe they have a book or interviews you can listen in on.

Books have truly helped me in my own personal journey.

Interviews have pivoted my life!

Life is for you and wanting to see you win!

Go for it ~

Sending you love and support through your process.