Hxdream

I hope this share can bring you awareness surrounding an area that we often overlook as it is something that is hidden beneath the surface.

When we are able to draw this truth to the surface, it will allow us to take back our power and start doing the energetic work to reclaim it from every area that we have so freely given it away.

Our minds go through great lengths to “protect” us. It will go as far as sometimes shielding the truth and making up a narrative that will allow us to feel better. Some of us get lost in this story, in the delusion.

Many of us, without knowing it, will easily give our power up.

In my observation and experience, it can be unrecognizable when we are doing it.

It is mostly when we are lost in our delusion that we give it away so freely, as we are caught up in the illusion of false reality.

So how does one take the power back?

By waking up from the illusion.

And how does one wake from the illusion?

I found that when we are questioning our thoughts, we can find our way out of the labyrinth.

Inquiring into our thoughts supports us in asking what is real and what is showing up to us as an illusion.

When our worth and value come under attack, our mind will seek outwardly before it looks internally.

The thoughts we form by the mind are:

What did I do wrong?

Is there something wrong with me?

For some, the mind will go into self-defense by putting others down and making others the villain in our story. This temporarily alleviates the discomfort of feeling unworthy, but it’s a never-ending game of needing to blame, complain, and shame.

Let me share a personal scenario that may give context to how taking back your power can look:

Recently, I was talking to a guy who I actually developed a liking for.

After hanging out with him, he shared how he would reach out to me over the coming week, and I was looking forward to it.

The next day, I found myself checking my phone, hoping for a text, but got nothing.

I didn’t think too much of it since it had only been a day, but I slowly started to feel unsettled. One day turned into two and two into three. I soon started feeling crummy and witnessed myself having thoughts such as:

Why hasn’t he reached out?

When will he reach out?

What if he doesn’t?

And the thoughts just cycled over and over as I kept checking my phone. This was all draining my energy, but I couldn’t stop.

On the third day, I knew enough was enough. I was being erratic with my phone checking.

For many of us, this may be a normal experience, as this happens, and so we normalize the experience.

We may vent to our friends, “How could he?” and our friends respond in ways that are on our side in attempts to cheer us up. But what exactly has us feeling so bad?

I was fine before connecting with him and now suddenly I’m not too sure of myself.

So I started to dive deep within myself and it went like this:

I examined what I was thinking.

“Why isn’t he texting me? Why hasn’t he reached out?”

Then I asked myself:

“What meaning am I giving this?”

To which I realized a lingering thought deep in the back saying:

“He’s probably not reaching out because you aren’t worth it or good enough!”

That was the first ding. I recognized that I had unknowingly given away my power by evaluating my worth based on whether he was going to reach out to me.

After digging this up, I asked myself, “Is this true?” to which I answered honestly with a laugh, “No, that is absolutely not true.”

This guy not texting me has nothing to do with my worth or value. Yet I had easily given it that meaning.

My mind was putting the power into his hands. He now had the power to make me feel good about myself or not based on whether I was going to receive a text.

It was in that moment, once I answered my own question “Is this true” with a clear knowing that it ABSOLUTELY was not true, that I was able to start doing the energetic work to claim my power back to which I went through another series of questions:

If this is not true, then what is?

What is true is that we define our own worth and value.

We decide and define those lines through our own actions and being, not anyone outside of us. The illusion would like us to believe that other people define that for us.

When I got to my truth, the illusion dissolved. I had taken my power back, and the need to check my phone along with the thoughts that were looping uncontrollably completely stopped.

I was able to recognize my mind had gone delusional and was in fear that my worth and value were at stake when it simply wasn’t true.

Him not reaching out says nothing about him or me.

Him not reaching out is just what it is, and even if it was because he didn’t find me worth pursuing, that still doesn’t mean anything about me.

Someone not finding me worth pursuing has nothing to do with me. It’s his personal preference that he is allowed to have because we all have our own personal preferences.

When we personalize these personal preferences of others to define our truth and our internal value, we are at the mercy of the world. We are always riding a roller coaster because we are dependent on others to give us our meaning. Our meaning is within us. We define ourselves.

In going through this simple process, my once-drained energy became full, remembering who I am.

That was just my story, but where does this apply to you? Where do you find yourself questioning yourself?

This doesn’t only apply to dating; this applies to everything. Where do you give your power away? Where do you find yourself holding on to someone else to give you permission to feel good about yourself?

It’s in those moments that I find it very supportive to stop, pull back from the situation, and start questioning your thoughts. Chances are you may have accidentally given your power away through a narrative that is simply not true, and the only way to retrieve your power is through undoing the mind.

Hope this supported you in a small way!