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How to Heal the “I’m Not Enough” Wound

You may struggle with certain wounds that affect how you feel, how you show up, and how you move through life. I know I did. And for me, one of the deepest wounds was the “I’m not enough” wound.

The way this wound shows up can be sneaky. It can lead to self-sabotage, keeping us stuck in patterns that hold us back. It can pull us into victimhood—feeling helpless, unworthy, and spiraling into doubt and disconnection.

So I want to be direct in this share and talk about how we heal this wound—until it shifts quantumly.
The truth is: it’s actually simple.
And no, it doesn’t require anyone outside of you.

Sometimes we think the way out is having someone choose us. If they pick us, love us, validate us—then we’ll finally feel like we’re enough. But that path never ends well. It only creates more powerlessness, more chasing, more emptiness.

Here’s the truth:

The way we heal this wound is fully in our hands.
But we have to be willing to look in the mirror.
We may have had moments in our life when someone didn’t choose us, maybe because we didn’t meet their expectations—but let’s be real… we’re not here to live up to anyone else’s expectations.
We’re here to live our own truth.

Trying to people-please or shape-shift into someone you’re not—just to be accepted—is a guaranteed path to feeling unworthy. Especially when you’re a star trying to fit into a square.

You don’t need others to choose you.
You need to start choosing yourself.

How can you expect to feel like you’re enough if you aren’t declaring it for yourself?

So how do you actually heal it?

It’s simple to say—but it will challenge you in the best way:
You show up for yourself.

Every time you make a choice that honors you—your well-being, your values, your goals—you are subconsciously telling yourself:
“I am enough.”
You don’t have to say it out loud. You don’t have to write it on your mirror 100 times.
It becomes who you are—through your actions.

Pretending to be something you’re not never works.
No mantra can override a life that’s not in alignment.
You’ve got to feel it from the inside out.

When you embody your enough-ness, you don’t need to prove it.
You don’t need to convince yourself of it.
It becomes who you are.

Being enough looks like confidence.
It looks like self-respect.
It looks like having value and honoring it.
It’s a quiet, grounded certainty that doesn’t seek validation—it radiates it.

Those inner whispers that nudge you toward something better?
Start listening.
Start following through.
Start doing the thing—even when it’s hard.

Every time you do, you’re rewiring your reality.
You’re building a new identity:
The “I AM enough” version of you.

Hit your targets.
Meet your own expectations.
Show up—not to prove yourself to others, but to prove it to yourself.

You never needed someone else to choose you.
You simply needed to stop outsourcing your power and start feeding it back into yourself.

Choose you—because you love you.
Because you trust you.
Because when you do, the world reflects it right back.
And when you’re living from that place, those who can meet you will naturally show up to choose you too.